There’s No Checklist

There’s an age old question, “Why do bad things happen to good people?”  and its answer might help prevent bitterness.  The question is asked because we think bad things should NEVER happen to ‘good’ people.  We think bad things shouldn’t happen to… us!

And it’s all because of our checklist.

I doubt you actually have a pen and paper with you at all times marking all the good you’ve done. (At least I hope you don’t.)  You might not be ‘keeping score’ but, just ask any Little Leaguer, it doesn’t mean you don’t know who ‘won’.

What’s on this ‘checklist of goodness’?

  • Go to church – check
  • Be nice to people – check
  • Didn’t kill anyone on my way to work (even though that jerk cut me off) – check
  • Paid my taxes (even though I don’t agree with the bailouts, etc, etc, etc…) – check
  • Voted (no comment) – check
  • Filled out my timecard (even though I dont’ get paid what I’m worth) – check
  • Read my Bible – check
  • Pray – check
  • Tithe (even gave extra at the holidays) – check

Yes, this list may seem simplistic and maybe you are one of those amazing people who has given money to the homeless, donated a kidney to a co-worker, spent time at soup kitchens, knit blankets for babies, etc, etc…  You are a fine example of humanity, but that does not protect you from the ‘bad’.

We keep this mental checklist of all we’ve done and think it somehow matters.  Well, shouldn’t it?  Bottomline… no.  Continue reading


Emily – Based on ‘A Rose for Emily’ by William Faulkner

The assignment was to write a poem about the short story ‘A Rose for Emily’ by William Faulkner.  If you haven’t read it, I think my poem might give you a clue as to what happens.  If you have read it, let me know what you think of the poem!

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Parties and Quiet Times


A friend recently asked what my Quiet Time looked like.  Since I know her and the reasons she usually asks me these kinds of questions, I answered the question she was really asking, and not the one she voiced.

What is a Quiet Time and why should we have one?

It’s like going to a party.  There’s typically one host.  They invite those they know and sometimes those they’d like to know better.  Everyone mingles.  You get to know others on a surface level.  There’s a collective quality to a ‘good’ party.  But even at the best kinds of parties, most of the time you’ll find those people you don’t see often, or those you want to know more about and say, “It was great to see you… we really should get together and catch up.”  Because you know that seeing someone only at a party makes it almost impossible to deepen your relationship.

You plan the personal get together.  It’s usually just you and this friend.  Maybe it’s dinner, coffee, lunch, going out for dessert… however it is structured the best ones involve talking and catching up one-on-one Continue reading

An Authoress to Admire

Dorothy L.Sayers (1893-1957) was an Oxford educated author, Christian humanist, and good friend of C.S. Lewis and J.R.R. Tolkien.  A friend of mine recently introduced me to her work when he quoted her in his blog.

After some research I found some quotes I quite enjoy beginning with my personal favorite.  I look forward to reading her mysteries and works of non-fiction.

Why do you want a letter from me? Why don’t you take the trouble to find out for yourselves what Christianity is? You take time to learn technical terms about electricity. Why don’t you do as much for theology? Why do you never read the great writings on the subject, but
take your information from the secular ‘experts’ who have picked it up as inaccurately as you? Why don’t you learn the facts in this field as honestly as your own field? Why do you accept mildewed old heresies as the language of the church, when any handbook on church history will tell you where they came from?
Why do you balk at the doctrine of the Trinity – God the three in One – yet meekly acquiesce when Einstein tells you E=mc2? What makes you suppose that the expression “God ordains” is narrow and bigoted, while your own expression, “Science demands” is taken as an objective statement of fact?
You would be ashamed to know as little about internal combustion as you know about Christian beliefs.
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POV of a 17 year old

whoamiI wrote this my senior year of high school for my Creative Writing class.

Much of my writing is to remind my ‘older’ self of things I learn and how I felt at certain ages of my life.  My goal for this poem was to not only express how I was feeling at that moment, but also to show how I knew in the future I’d be facing the same opinion from my own children.  Do children ever really understand adults before they become adults?  I remember writing and rewriting the ending to express the cycle of the adult/child relationship.  How we think we’ll remember and somehow ‘right the wrongs’ we faced as children, yet we end up creating new ‘wrongs’ with the next generation.

What do you think?


I’m getting older and hopefully wiser
although my parents still treat me as a child,
at times.
I suppose I understand
I’ll always be their child.
I am the youngest
the baby
the Lucky One
at least my sister thinks so.
I don’t know about that myself
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Most Wonderful Time of the Year

Why is it that when you’re a kid and Christmas only means presents, pretty lights, and wrapping paper does Christmas seem to be so BIG?  The movies, songs, cookie baking, decorations, school concerts, plays, and those fun christmas sweaters… (Ok, so maybe that’s a girl thing.)

I remember the build up and the excitement .  Yet now that my focus is on the TRUE meaning of Christmas, the ‘holiday season’ is a blur until about December 23rd.   Then it suddenly BLAZES into reality and I’m hit with the fact I haven’t bought any gifts.

It’s obvious to any American – Christmas has become too commercialized.

A few years ago the ads were pushing this joyous holiday notion:

 “This is what I want – don’t forget to buy it or I won’t be happy with you.” 

It was on the radio, TV, and even on billboards.  Especially the jewlerly & new car ads.  They’re still overwhelming!

Is it really true that people cannot have a good Christmas experience without Continue reading

Spin Cycle

Laundry is never ending.  Even as you finish the ‘last load’ something you’re wearing will need to be washed.   And the Spin Cycle seems to take the longest when you’ve forgotten to wash what you need.

While doing laundry one night I thought about the Spin Cycle and me.  The last few months have been a constant state of change.  Not knowing which way was up, if I was headed in the right direction, or, if the news is to be believed, in this ‘dire economy’ my life would fall apart.

God tells us we will be tested.  And times of testing can wear me out.  I pull away from my normal over-exuberance toward others while I attempt to ‘work out’ what’s going on in my life.  And I question WHY I need to be tested.  And… I thought of my clothes.

I wash my favorites over and over because they get the most use and become dirty.  Not because I want Continue reading